Most people stop right before “the thing” comes out. The Thing your spouse is actually upset about, the frustration that you’re actually having with your direct report. We hint around it, tip toe around it…and then hope that’s good enough. It never is. Avoiding “the thing” keeps us stuck in rumination, builds mountains out of molehills, and leaves us or others guessing about what’s really going on.
The Thing never gets better if it’s never brought out into the open. So go deeper. Ask the hard question. Go where you feel the discomfort. Get it out so it can get resolved.
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