Six simple words…

Today I met with a number of clients and loved it all.  I also polished off that book I mentioned earlier and loved it too.  Makes me want to go to France and climb some mountains…

My last meeting today lasted a couple hours but, for me, it turned in the last 30 minutes.  The last 30 minutes were focused on gaining clarity, for this client, in his personal life.  Isn’t it funny how little focus we give to our big dreams for anything beyond what we’re paid.  Today, my client gained some clarity in both arenas – work and life.  Mostly, most profoundly, he gained clarity in the latter.  Very cool.

I mostly listened to him share his thoughts about his “significant other.”  Isn’t it interesting how little we really need to hear from another and how much we WANT to be heard?  Moving on.

Here’s the two step process I shared with my client that seemed to resonate.  The two steps to transforming the real relationships that matter in life.  Develop the habit of following this and the big dreams in your life just might get a little closer.

First, develop the habit of asking God for help.

Second, develop the habit of telling your “significant other” that YOU are sorry.  Sorry for something you’ve done.  Sorry for something you’ve NOT.  Sorry for the pain they are in.  Sorry for the pain from where they’ve been.   And, sorry that you hadn’t noticed till NOW.  Sorry that you are trying to fix another that simply wants to be heard.  Sorry, so sorry, that you’ve not UNDERSTOOD.

None of us, I believe, can perfect LOVE.  We all need God’s help in loving.  Only He can fill our hole and only He can fill us beyond full so we can truly overflow.

AND, we will always feel, as humans, the little nick from another as if we’ve been cut to the bone while missing our slashes to the hearts of those around us who, we say to ourselves, just need to “get over it.”  We all need a change in perspective and we’ll all fall short here.  Hence, the habit of saying, and meaning, that we are sorry.

Help me God.

I’m sorry Miss.

It’s as easy and as complex as six simple words…