Author: Chet

A new BTL Builder shadowed me recently and wrote me his observations from a day of practice. Lots of good stuff. One surprising.  He told me he was surprised how much time I spent affirming my clients. I was surprised at this too. He wrote out examples. Turns out very little were words. He picked … Continue reading Affirmations…

Practice ended and my client walked me toward the door. He's about to make a game changing move in his work. It's a great play. Going to level up him and his team.  The gears were churning. He grabbed my shoulder and said something like, "can you imagine what this place will look like if we pull … Continue reading No if…

Miss and I are heading home. Hearts full. Memories made. Life is not measured by the minutes you live. It’s measured by the life in your minutes. Damn. Live hard. Love ❤️ harder…

Mom celebrated her 101st birthday yesterday. Was one I’ll never forget. She told stories of the 1920’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, and led us in singing songs of thanksgiving all along the way. I could not hold back the tears as she led us in singing songs of “My country tis of thee…” Was epic to … Continue reading 101…

A client recently told me about some struggles at home. He's not getting what he's giving, or so he thinks. I listened and waited patiently for him to catch his breath. He's sideways, you know. She doesn't respect him. Never fills his cup. And, she seems unable to understand what it's like to be a … Continue reading Don’t know how you do it…

Happy Mother’s Day. Today, we celebrate Mom’s everywhere. You’ve been defending your young, well, like a mother, since time began. We’ve not always returned the favor. When I was a kid my Mom couldn’t get a credit card or take out a loan in her own name. I can remember not understanding why she signed … Continue reading Mothers…

Lots of well meaning coaches, leaders, and parents think they’re being helpful when they tell their athlete, teammate, or child to “just do your best.” Talk about an anxiety pill. What the hell is my best? Instead of that ambiguity, leader, be specific, concrete, and actionable. Tell your teammate to write 4 days a week … Continue reading Don’t just do your best…

Normal humans, my observation, are a mess. They look out the window and scream to all who will listen, "F*$% it, F#$% you, F@#$ off. I guess they feel better for a brief second. Soon enough truth rises. They are not fine. Truth. They are F#$%ed. High performers look in the mirror, not out the … Continue reading Habits…