Author: Chet

Lots of chatter about "controlling the controllables." What are the BIG controllables? Let me give you three. Attitude. Your performance improves when your attitude is more positive. Expect excellence. Demand it, in fact, of yourself. Effort. Your performance improves when you embrace becoming a "try hard." Stop governing your effort. Front foot. Aggressive. Empty the … Continue reading Control the controllables (again)…

This post will not be popular. Truth. When you do something kinda shitty, broadcast it. When you do something freakin' magic, keep it to yourself. You just got better; bitter, not so much. This is wisdom paraphrased from Os Guinness, a dude worth following. Most of us are following bullshit influencers. Chasing after what's popular … Continue reading Keep the right secrets…

All of us need a hand to hold onto. Doesn’t have to be no strong hand. Doesn’t have to be no rich hand (paraphrasing John Mellencamp), but everybody needs a hand to hold onto. When you’re strong. Grab a hand. Pull them along and up. Don’t be a chicken. Go ahead and have some fun … Continue reading Everybody…

Life has always been hard. "The Peers in their messes are encouraged, when they deem it useful for the instruction of youth, to single out one lad, or even another Peer, and abuse him verbally in the most stern and pitiless fashion. This is called arosis, harrowing. It's purpose, much like the physical beatings, is … Continue reading Less soft…

“Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things: for example, death is nothing terrible, for if it were, it would have seemed so to Socrates; for the opinion about death, that it is terrible, is the terrible thing.” Epictetus “Nothing in life is as important as you … Continue reading Epictetus, Danny, and Doc agree…

Church with mom this early morning. She wasn’t up to going so we watched together at her apartment. Since we were blessed to be together we prayed, this time, holding hands. On the 2.5 drive home, I listened to the OSU womens soccer game and watched every so often. Lori’s team won 3-0 over the … Continue reading Mom, Lori, and integrating…

We humans are prone to what modern science describes as falling prey to the focusing illusion. In Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman describes this very CCD. "Nothing in life is as important as you think it is when you are thinking about it." Slow down and reflect. Are you focusing your attention on some … Continue reading Focus here…

Great day filled with joy and it’s not even half over. Playtime. Park time. Book time. It was the last one that brought me to tears. Tears of joy and… The book Love you Forever stole my breath. Pierced my heart. Took me back to bedtime reading. Watching Miss live this with each and every … Continue reading Skosh, Chi-Chi, Poopoopapa, and…