He did…

This has been the week of the distressed.  No surprise, huh.  Look around you and look inside.  The world, it appears, is full of hyper-stressed humans.  How did we get this way?  Did you know that Hans Selye only coined the term in the 50’s, the 1950’s that is.  No wonder Grandma and Grandpa appeared so much more at ease, they didn’t have a word to describe their feeling of frustration.  Funny, huh.

So why are we,  in America, the land of the hyper-stressed?  Good question and one that does not have a short simple answer.  The reasons for our abundance of stressors are almost as endless as the list itself.  Huh?

The root cause is a bit easier to nail.  The root reason we are such a freakin’ stressed out bunch is because we have an alignment problem.  Our Worldview is out of alignment with our reality.  Huh?

Most of us are predictably irrational.

We actually believe that the world is to operate according to what our crackberry dictates and that if our will is strong enough we can bend the world and even our wives toward our end.  We believe that regardless the amount of ash in the air, that our flights should operate.  AND, on-time damn-it!

Today, I listened to four very distressed men.  Each was suffering from a stressor overload of their own making.  Each bristled at my clear, concise, and direct words. And, each walked out with some work to do on their Worldview. They just did.  And, each one walked out with some specific baby steps that will reduce their stress levels regardless of the bigger work on their Worldview. At BTL, we believe in working on the deep root and on alleviating as much pain as possible along the way.  We’re really not as much a “summabitch” as some of you might think.  We just aren’t.

Here’s what I shared (verbatim) with one of my clients regarding my worldview and it’s impact on my level of distress.  Take this for what it’s worth…

“Why I don’t feel hyper-stressed?  There are a million tiny reasons but at the heart is my belief system.  My WV is source of amazing strength here.  I know that I am NOT in control of anything, even my health.  I am living on a prayer and cannot imagine how God can keep me and 6.5 billion others in His hand, but He does.  As I find my life spiraling out of control and see the possibility in the future for “it” to overwhelm, I simply remind myself of who is in charge and what He wants for me.  I believe that I’m here to be built.  I’m here to become someone that God already sees with 2020 clarity, me, not so much.  I’m here so that God can “bless me,” and, in time, so that I can “bless the world” around me.  The highest call of humankind isn’t happiness, remember, it’s blessedness.  Blessedness is knowing that God is at work both in and through you.  Try to reframe your stressors through  your WV and see what it brings your way.”

I’m a work in process as are you.  Reframe and align.  Who knew the root was that simple and that hard at the same time?

He did…