I recently had an “aha” that sounds almost too simple to be worth saying. I will share it anyway, for what it’s worth.
A few weeks back, a client asked me to send him a list of all the 3P exercises we do together. He wanted these for his own use on the weekend in between our sessions. I hadn’t really compiled the list in any one place, so I sat down to pull together what I had taken from youtube, trxtraining.com, and from a handful of books. The list was extensive and reminded me of how far we have come.
And, I noticed something else that hit me even harder. Next to a few of the exercises I noticed the notes that I had written to myself, “not yet.”
Not yet doesn’t sound like much but it is a big WV correction for me. I wrote “not yet” next to a handful of exercises that I couldn’t begin to execute. Historically that would have been the end of it. I would simply not attempt them again, especially in front of anyone. I didn’t like looking bad and would choose to stick to my competencies and preserve my jacked up ego.
My old WV was all about what I could do and what I could not do. I hated admitting to myself my limitations and I hated even moreso looking bad. So redic, I know.
I don’t believe that I can do anything, don’t get me wrong, but I am beginning to believe that most of my limits are self imposed out of some kinda messed up self image. Funny, huh.
There are limits on my performance just as there are on yours. I do believe, however, that there are many things that I will do. I’ve got to have clarity around why I want them, be willing to break it down into bite size chunks, and embrace the practice with patience and humility.
Try looking at one of your struggles, whatever it is, with a new WV. Stop telling yourself you cannot stop it, you cannot perform it, you don’t have what it takes, you will never be enough, you are too much, you just need to be more realistic, and any other negative, defeating scripts you are allowing your mind to spin up. Simply make a note to self…
Not yet.
BUILT TO LEAD 