We are blind to what we don’t see. Because we don’t see it, we oftentimes make the mistake of assuming it’s not there. When others attempt to illuminate what we’re missing, we give ’em triple d (defend, deny, destroy). I see this all the time.
Last week, I purposely pissed off one of my clients. I had never seen him pissed. His teammmate had, and told me all about the triggers. Being from near Missouri, I had to see for myself.
I saw.
My client was super pissed and shut down his teammate. My client didn’t want to see it. He described himself as “intense” and passionate. His teammate described him as angry and scary. Remember, to your teammates, you are what they say you are. Let that one sink in for a bit…
You cannot lead a team from your heart when your heart is filled with anger. You just can’t. You won’t want to. You will hide your heart because you won’t want them to see how you really feel. You will wall off your feelings and your team will know that they are missing something. They just won’t know what. And, sadly, they won’t know you.
The greatest leaders lead from their heart. They trust themselves. They’ve built a sCORE and they know it. These leaders get pissed about performance, not at people. Their teammates feel the difference. These leaders may be really demonstrative or california cool. The style won’t matter. The CORE will.
What do your teammates see when you’re pissed about the nums? Do they connect with your righteous anger about performance or do they simply see somebody who is really pissed at people?
Tell me more, my friend.
Tell me more…
BUILT TO LEAD 