Today, in practice 5 with the team of 5 that has suddenly grown to a team of 9, I helped a few understand how to “delve into conflict.” This team has only been together for a few months and they think that it’s time to get real. Funny, huh. Most couples, most communities and most companies that have been together for years, decades, or more haven’t risked getting raw EVER. Why? The dreaded “F” word of course.
Fear tells us to play it safe and keeps us from transforming a few. Fear is the enemy. Today, with the team of 9, fear took a direct hit. I’m hoping that by next weeks practice fear will have been blown away. I challenged all of the team of 9 to play Ghandi and be the change. This is the only way, sadly. Somebody has to be willing to die…
Here’s the mistake that most of us make when it comes to being the change and leading a team to learn how to “embody” truth in LOVE. We assume that the way to model the way is to use a soft setup to tell somebody how they are really pissing us off. We think that we’re going to practice telling another the truth in LOVE and show them their shortcomings with a smile on our face. We think that will do the trick. We think that we know exactly what they need to hear and we pray for wisdom to deliver this truth without pissing them off. So, we walk in and drop the bomb. We are utterly amazed when the result is rather explosive. My God, why wouldn’t they be grateful to hear the truth, we wonder.
Funny, huh.
So, here’s the recipe the team of 9 heard. The recipe for “delving into conflict” is diving into the deep end for yourself. The secret is to begin by asking not telling. Build the habit of asking another to tell you the truth about how you’ve tweaked them. Are you kidding me? Nope, I’m not.
Remember, we all have a justice thread. We’re just overly tuned to our own.
Today, in practice number 5, a team learned the recipe for building a team that embodies truth in LOVE. And, this team learned that the only way to build such a team is for someone to care enough to risk it all. Somebody has to model the way. Somebody has to hear, FIRST.
Have you made it your habit to hear the truth from your team?
Tell me more, my friend.
Tell me more…
BUILT TO LEAD 