Today, during practice 64 with a team of thirteen, we discovered that when it comes to selecting spouses, selecting primary care physicians, and even when it comes to selecting the community within which we take up residence, we do NOT arrive at selection Sunday, so to speak, with minds that simply seek the most rational way forward.
ALL decisions are emotional. All “decidres,” remember, involve the decision maker deciding to literally “cut off” options. When you select a spouse, you literally cut yourself off from a world full of potential partners. When you choose a primary care physician you cut yourself off from a world of potential physicians. When you choose a community to lay down roots you cut yourself off from countless other communities that could be just as cool. All such decisions will be accompanied with something unintended and something of no small consequence. All decisions come with some kinda cognitive dissonance. Translation – once you decide something, I mean really decidre something, you are gonna have some second thoughts. You are going to “feel” like you coulda done better, shoulda looked around a bit more, and more or less second guess yourself.
Normal.
Today a team of thirteen learned a bit about their emotional brain and how it ignites the rational one. Excellence requires a whole new mind that builds competence, rational, technical skills, and couples them with confidence, caring, life kinda skills. Most humans, remember, get hired for the technical kinda skills they appear to possess and get fired for their lack of life skills the hirer assumed they had. Most humans, remember, are not acting rational are they. Most humans, most of the time, are predictably irrational.
And, finally, we arrive at the end of this confusing little rant. You, most likely, have a problem in front of you. You think you are attacking it as best you can. This is your rational brain rationalizing. You are waiting. You are waiting. You are waiting.
You are waiting a little too long.
You think you are deciding but you are not cutting off anything. You are trying to avoid a loss. You are trying to maintain your options. Leaders decide. Faux ones kinda do. The difference appears slight until you extrapolate the endless examples in work and life. Think about that for awhile.
Wanna know why there is such an epidemic of young people, today, living together and “waiting” to get married? You just did. Funny, huh…
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