I’ve rinsed this rant from 2013. This was the most read blog of 2013…
Divorce, like so many decisions in life, is really complicated, complex, and quite simple at the same time. “Irreconcilable differences” blankets, quite conveniently, the real root as to why most couples find themselves in front of a Judge instead of their Pastor. Somebody chose to be done. Somebody chose to change their mind. Somebody chose to take their vows a little less seriously. Somebody gave themselves an out.
Divorce occurs because somebody gives themself the option to quit. Humans, turns out, are happiest when they value commitment over freedom. Real freedom, remember, is best bookended with lifelong, hard earned, responsibility.
If you want to stick to anything or anyone, don’t give your brain an “opt out” option. All disciplines are complicated, complex, and, at their root, really simple. It’s easy to be committed for awhile; real, hard, work to be committed for a lifetime. Endurance is only for the few. Love is NOT possible without loyalty. Become ONE, together…
Happiness, is more about honoring your committments than it is about enjoying your freedoms. Don’t take my word for it; ask an old (odd) couple who is joyfully growing old. Ask them for the roots of their endurance.
What are you choosing, commitment or some kinda false freedom? Tell me more, my friend. Tell me more…
BUILT TO LEAD 