Waiting…

All decisions are emotional.

All “decidres,” remember, involve the decision maker deciding to literally “cut off” options. When you select a spouse, you literally cut yourself off from a world full of potential partners. When you choose a primary care physician you cut yourself off from a world of potential physicians. All such decisions will be accompanied with something unintended and of no small consequence. All decisions come with some kinda cognitive dissonance. Translation – once you decide something, I mean really decidre something, you’re gonna have some second thoughts. You are going to “feel” like you coulda done better, shoulda looked around a bit more, and more or less second guess yourself.

Normal.

You, most likely, have a problem in front of you. You think you are attacking it as best you can. This is your rational brain rationalizing. You are waiting. You are waiting for one more piece of analytics, perhaps. You are waiting for your leader to come to his senses and STOP his un-leader like behavior. You are waiting until you have more time. You are waiting for the problem to go away on its own. You are waiting for others to force your hand.

You are waiting a bit too long.

You think you are deciding but you are not cutting off anything. You are fighting to maintain your options. You don’t think these words are for you, do you? You are letting your brain default to its prehistoric wiring and avoid a loss. And, all the while, your team is watching you, wondering why, wondering what, wondering if you’ll ever pull the trigger.

Leaders decide. Faux ones don’t quite finish. The difference appears slight until you extrapolate the endless examples in work and life. Wanna know why there is such an epidemic of young people, today, living together and “waiting” to get married? You just did.

What are you waiting for, my friend?