Couples, when they come together in most marriage ceremonies, answer their Priest or Pastor with a slew of “I do’s;” “we do’s,” not so much. We’re becoming one in this most sacred of relationship yet our leader, if you will, addresses us as two. There is a deep why behind this process. Today, in practice 98, we focused on this truth. We focused, at least for awhile, on why I do’s matter so much more.
Frankeethecfoinghonkee asked the first question. He asked his teammate if she caught herself sending a message out of control. She said she did. She sometimes lets herself explode at home. She explained her remedy as “we.” We. Nothing wrong with we. But we don’t get better when you explode and then explain what we need to do better. We just don’t. Think about this for awhile. I offered some correction in the moment. The correction was for all of us. Here it is. We don’t get better. We don’t get better, remember…
I do.
And, when my significant other hears me wanting to get better, it’s most likely contagious. There are no equal partnerships in work and life. All of our relationship get sustainably better when I choose to get better; when I choose to self assess; when I choose to turn my critical eye inward. We don’t get better when I keep dividing my attention toward what you could do different. Human’s, remember, deeply change when it’s our own idea to change. Play to this in your partnerships. Practice working on you, first. We just got better. Do you see this?
I do…
BUILT TO LEAD 