Today, my client and I went back to his worldview. He told me he was too busy to live out his most bolted on belief about God. I told him the truth.
His most bolted on belief is busyness.
He believes, as long as he’s really, really busy – he won’t have to think. He runs himself ragged so he doesn’t have idle time to think. I walked him through his options. He can either change his beliefs to align with his behaviors or he can change his behaviors to align with his beliefs. Thinkers, philosophers, and moral teachers the world over have characterized the former option as rationalization and the latter as reconciliation/repentance.
What are you going to do about it, was my challenge to him and always my challenge to me. All humans have integrity gaps. The best among us simply own their own. They look in the mirror and change behavior to align with their deepest held beliefs. They repent, repair, and restore themselves to proper alignment. As they habituate this discipline within, it becomes a habit of the heart. It spreads. Here’s the coolest part – it spreads to their relationships…
Instead of looking out the window to blame their spouse, brother, partner, or neighbor when adversity strikes, these enlightened types look in the mirror, first. They repent, repair, and restore relationships. These kinda master-repairmen/women get our heart. The repair effort with another, do you see, actually begins with the repair effort within.
This is why we believe your worldview really matters. This is why we believe aligning behaviors to beliefs is right; the other way around, not so much. This is why we want all of our clients to really own authoring their own and rinsing it for crystal clarity. This is why we make our clients look in the mirror and own their behaviors. This is why we believe leaders are believers. Do you see it?
BUILT TO LEAD 