Patience…

Rome wasn’t built in a day. We all know this and we’ve all heard this a thousand times. Here’s the relevant, real, extrapolation to you. You won’t be built in a day either. Patience. There’s no pill to swallow to build you into the master of yourself, much less the master of your craft, the master of your team, or the master of your marriage. Patience.

Patience doesn’t mean you sit around and wait either. Patience means you prepare, practice, study, learn, and apply. Patience means you prepare to fail, you develop the discipline of stretching, reaching, and missing the mark, all so you can get better. Patience.

Your marriage doesn’t magically become two distinct and deeply connected ones without some serious patience. Most couples go from a pair of enablers in some kinda co-dependent, self centered lust based attraction, to slowly becoming a pair of deeply different, distinct individuals. This change feels, oftentimes, like we’ve grown apart when the reality is one or both have actually begun to grow up. Only the patient few go through this valley of becoming distinct and disconnected and slowly, painstakingly emerge on the other side. These patient few can’t really explain it but they know they feel more deeply connected. Love, remember, is patient…

So, next time you feel your distinction causing a problem with those closest to you, slow down – it’s part of the process. ONE, distinct and deeply connected is a process. God, help me understand this truth. God, help me trust the process. God, help me be patient and prepared. God, help me.

Love is patient. Patience, my friend. Rome, remember, wasn’t built in a day and neither is a FM kinda marriage. Patience…