Today, during another tough practice, I challenged a few people to write out the conflict between them. They had all stopped writing because it hurt to see their stuff in black and white. This is normal.
I explained the difference between writing and root canals. Writing about conflict within and with another is like having a root canal without novocaine. It’s gonna hurt worse for a short while. Prepare for this pain. Embrace this. Get it out, anyway. You would not let a dead root continue to rot in your mouth, why let diseased, damaging, and deadly thoughts remain rooted in your head. Get the mess out.
As this team wrote the root of their most recent tension and we talked it out, clarity came. We walked out with all writing their own PA to rebuild the heart of every team’s performance – trust. Today, a few people ran toward the acute pain. They expect it’s gonna hurt worse for awhile. They gotta experience something that will feel like death as they kill deeply engrained habits and head toward healing. The reason team chemistry is so rare is because building any kinda trust is hard; the deep stuff, desperately so. Your problem, most likely, is you live in some form of false harmony and have grown so accustomed to “playing nice,” you don’t know how far you’ve fallen from the aim for which you were made.
Peace, remember, is always found on the other side of deep pain. Embrace this fact. Model the way. Embrace pain and suffering. Embody truth in LOVE. Trust is so elusive because it requires someone to choose to lose. God, help me choose to lose. God, help me…
BUILT TO LEAD 