Conflict…

Yesterday we surfaced conflict on a team. No. Big. Deal. Every team, every couple, every community, and country are laced with conflict. It felt like a big deal to the dudes surfacing the conflict, however. Always does.

One of my pet peeves is around knowing the right stuff to say and not doing it. For instance. Everyone talks about “getting comfortable being uncomfortable.” What the hell does that mean? Literally it means embracing reality. Life is hard. The great life is not comfortable. The great life is discovered through learning to do hard things well. This begins by doing ‘em kinda shitty and being scared to death by even doing them at all. Translation. Do hard things before you’re ready. Do them again and again and again. Before you know it? You’re comfortable doing the hard stuff. And, it no longer feels hard. It feels right. Damn.

I believe most conflict is a conversation to be had. So, yesterday, we had three leaders have three conversations they had been waiting for the right moment to have. We created the moment. It was right. Went well. Why? Because these are good people who want the best for each other, they just haven’t shared truth enough times to know it’s the real freedom pill. John 8:32 is truth. Want a better team? Become a better leader. Initiate more truth telling and hearing with your team. Surface conflict instead of burying it. Take the hit instead of only delivering truth. What, friend, do you believe? Does your habitual behavior align?

Live hard. Love harder…