Author: Chet

Most birds only sing when the conditions are just right - when they’re safe, satisfied, and secure. We humans are a lot like birds. Most allow circumstances to control us. That, friends, is for the birds. Don’t be normal. Be more like a Lark… The Lark is not a normal bird. You see, the Lark … Continue reading For the birds…

Relationships cannot be healthy without both parties embracing some loss of self. This always involves acute pain. And, we're over tuned to our own loss of independence; our partners, not so much. This is why we're horrible at keeping score in close relationships. I feel every slight like I've been cut to the bone and … Continue reading Not getting even…

We build muscles with time under tension. We train them. We build relationships with time under attention. We love them. Muscles grow accustomed and adapt to tension. They will not grow unless you increase resistance, change routine, and overload them in new ways. Your closest relationships will not flourish without similar, focused attention. The routines … Continue reading Time under attention…

When a SEAL chief senses tension within his team, he often plays the "Van fight" card. What, you ask is a van fight? The leader says the word and the team gets in the van. The leader is off limits. He drives the van. The teammates get in the back of the van and fight … Continue reading Van fight…

Yesterday, we celebrated with Mom’s family and friends. Our old neighbors from fifty plus years ago came as did her best friends from Wichita, Margaret and Gene Logan. Her friends from The Manor came. It was another day to remember. Kairos, not just chronos, this gift of time we’re having. Today, we head to the … Continue reading Family and friends…

“You have to teach athletes, somewhere in their careers, that they can do more than they think they can.” Tim Noakes. “Just like a smile or frown, the words in your head have the power to influence the very feelings they’re supposed to reflect.” Alex Hutchinson author of book Endure. “Her capacity to hurt herself was … Continue reading Happy 100th mom…

Ek dropped some motherly wisdom on Mother's Day. Aedán had been playing with his assortment of cool cars for the better part of an hour. Bedtime was rapidly approaching. The family room was a car filled mess of his making. So, as he began to get fussy and tired, she gave him some lovingly CCD … Continue reading It’s alright…

Game Day. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there. We are grateful and thankful for each and every one of you. Hoping the mothers of Notre Dame Mens Lacrosse players and coaches have a great day in spite of the Buckeyes taking them out today. Mother’s Day and gameDAY. Integrate. Damn. Live hard. … Continue reading Mothers Day and…