Author: Chet

You and I are made to become and belong. We are designed to become the original we already are and to feel we belong with someone, some community, and some cause of our choosing. We all struggle becoming and belonging. The aims are in conflict. So are we. So, friend, here are some BTL swing … Continue reading Interdependent…

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. We are enjoying some family opus time in the sun. Very blessed with lots of laughs while celebrating another Thanksgiving season. Thankful for you too! Live hard. Love harder. Be Thanksfilled…

Your tippy toes are not for tip toeing around. You do not get relationally stronger walking on eggshells either. Use your tippy toes for reaching higher, grabbing something currently just out of reach, and seeing stuff you couldn’t see with your feet firmly planted on the ground. What, friend, are you using your toes for? … Continue reading Tippy toes…

The Gottmans (Great marriage/relationship scientists), instruct us to wish less, want more. One of their favorite disciplines is to have couples be very clear with each other regarding what they want. They tell the couples to stop wishing the other would give them what they want without asking for it. Hence, wish less/want more. I’ve … Continue reading Wish less…

I am baby stepping. It sucks. Makes me feel like an infant, again. Very frustrating, to say the least. Why? Because it’s much harder to unlearn than to learn. I’m baby stepping into deep, belly breathing. Never knew how shallow my chest breathing. Fact. Also learning to properly position/engage my core when doing simple lifts … Continue reading Baby stepping…

Grab a bowl of water. Fill it half way with water. Shake it. Shake it real good. What happens? Why? For most of us, water will be spilled. Now for the key finding? Why? Again, variety of reasons. Maybe you shook it too hard. Maybe you got distracted. Maybe somebody bumped your arms. Maybe you … Continue reading Shake it…

Yesterday, during practice 180 with a team of great grapplers, we practiced 7 good minutes with the team leaders. I gave two the gift of my belief. They look like different men from one year ago, these two. I asked their teammates if they had noticed. They had. I asked the two what about them. … Continue reading 7 good ones…

Your best bet for organic growth, friend, is the quality of your work. We do not tell others about garden variety service or support. We do not tell others about a product we like or a restaurant that was alright. We tell people about extremes, mostly about extremes to be avoided, btw. Rarely do humans … Continue reading Master your craft…