Author: Rachel Hanson

Direct is not the same thing as demanding. Direct means knowing what you believe and stating it clearly. It means fearless in speaking the truth that needs to be said. It does not, in and of itself, carry any expectations of the other. Demanding carries an implication that my way is right and you'll follow … Continue reading Direct vs demanding

If you're a logic-oriented thinker it's likely very easy and even tempting to think something through to the logical conclusion, solve it intellectually, and then move on. Thinking it is only half the game. Be a practitioner. A practitioner thinks the thing AND does the thing. The doing is the slower work. It's not thinking … Continue reading Be a practitioner

There's value in being an overcomer, a gamer, a grinder. AND...when what you're having to overcome and grind against is your own brain and your own negative self talk, it becomes exhausting. Self sabotage is no fun, even if you're capable of overcoming it. Get your brain on your side so that you can grind … Continue reading Train your brain

Coachable does not mean compliant. Some of my best athletes and most intense competitors toed the line of insubordination. Not often, and not for rebellion's sake. They had strong opinions and beliefs and voiced them. They cared deeply about winning, about the team, about excellence. This made our team better. Experience factored in as well. … Continue reading Coachable vs compliant

If you want to get out of dysfunction or a stuck state you must be willing to do some hard things. Are you willing to crank up the pain and orient toward your dream state? Crank up your pain by actually inspecting it rather than ignoring or numbing it. Ask yourself some hard questions - … Continue reading Pain and the dream

According to one body of research, we experience some sort of significant life event every 18 months. One interpretation - the only constant is change. Life is constantly changing, so make peace with it and get good at it. To not be good at change is to rail at one of the few inescapable facts … Continue reading Change

Turtling is a pretty normal human response to emotional pain. Lose a job, lose a marriage, lose a loved one - we tend to go more internal. Turtle up and put a little bit of a shell around us. A protective mechanism to give ourselves time to heal, shelter us from further pain at a … Continue reading Turtling

The Good Life, according to Martin Seligman's framework, is using our signatures strengths as frequently as possible in the realms of work, love, and parenting, with the aim of living a life filled with Authentic Happiness (the name of his book) and abundant gratification. That process must begin with knowing yourself and your signature strengths. … Continue reading The Good Life