As I listened to my client describe his recent vacation it was really cool to hear his recently acquired strength. The trip started off with his bride telling him to just take the kids, because she’s going home!!
Instead of reacting. He paused. He let it go.
He DEMONSTRATED that he wanted her to stay.
He is building his CORE and is starting to see why it is the heart of performance.
His CORE, just like yours and mine, can only be a source of strength when NEEDED, if prior to NEEDING one he took the time to BUILD one. A strong CORE is not something you summon up in your moment of truth. If that were the case, I would advise you and all my clients to simply delay, delegate, or delete this hard work.
Over the course of our hour together I asked him to look back on this series of “Kairos” moments with his bride. I asked him how he could have led this time even better. He was a little surprised by the question. He had handled it. The crisis had passed. What could possibly be the point to belabor?
Exceptional marriages, teams, and companies are built by finding the melody line and not stopping. Transformational leaders find the melody line and then constantly find a thousand “little” nuances. They never stop getting better. They do not handle things. They build them.
Are you building your CORE?
Are you delaying the building process because you are sooooooooo busy?
Why?
Are you building your BRIDE?
Are you letting her build you?
Are you building your man?
Are you pouring yourself into someone on your team?
Are you learning from your children?
Are you stopping as soon as the pain of the moment is behind you?
How do you get better when you sense that someone on your team would rather just go home?
Why?
BUILT TO LEAD 