Here’s a word change that, I believe, has the power to change your perspective.
Practice being “happy” for your child, your boss, your employee, your spouse, or your friend when they do something that is virtuous from your perspective. What we tend to do is experience a sense of being “proud” during such a moment. The problem, of course, is that this sense of pride somehow makes the virtuous act of another point toward us. We are “taking” credit. Funny, huh.
Practice changing your perspective by changing your sentence structure. Instead of saying, “I’m so proud of you,” practice saying, “I’m so happy for you.” As you catch yourself sending this along to your children, your boss, your employees, your spouse, and your friends, let me know if you notice any difference in how it feels.
Being truly happy for another sounds like no biggee. In my limited experience, however, I’ve found it to be a rare and very real treat. And, if this little rant makes any sense to you…
I am happy for you.
BUILT TO LEAD 
this make complete sense to me. I’ll tell you why.
ONe of your favorite teamates, Larry Allen, taught this to me several years ago when we were discussing PRIDE. We can tend to misuse words as my personal biggest problem or challenge is PRIDE. But we tend to use it for describing how our children make us feel or say it to someone else in a complementary way but then it also describes being better than someone else, etc. That can be hurtful and we delude ourselves that we are great. NOT. So back when Larry and I talked about this it has always stuck in my head and I have tried to catch myself when wanting to use this word. I stll do catch myself and have gotten much better at saying I am happy for you or that really makes me happy instead. So, if anything, I have become more conscious of what I really am trying to communicate.