Lead anything or anyone and you gotta build this master skill like a banchee. Lead anything and lead them well for long – you gotta be calm.
Calm.
This is why building trust is the first essential to building great teams and why few taste chemistry with another. Deep trust takes time, lots of practice, tons of repair work and a master regulator of the runaway train in your brain – your emotions. The enemy to this kinda trust is anxiety. Chemistry starts with calm. There are always storms and there will always be worries. Your job, if you want to lead anything, is to be present with your team and help them lead themselves forward. You gotta be calm and be able to calm another. Good. Got it. Wanna know where you can get some more? Look inside.
Calm comes from belief.
Remember, Leaders are believers. Every couple, company, and community wants to taste chemistry and chemistry does NOT come from anxiety. Chemistry comes from calm. Are you beginning to understand why you, leader, got to believe in order to be calm and remain calm to taste chemistry with your team. Slow down and reflect…
Practice, my friend. Lots of practice. God, help me build this master skill. God, help me trust in you and receive the calm that comes with knowing how the story ends. God, help me to calm down and refrain from using those words toward another. God, help me remain calm during today’s storm. God, help me…
BUILT TO LEAD 
“All of the great leaders have had one characteristic in common: it was the willingness to confront unequivocally the major anxiety of their people in their time. This, and not much else, is the essence of leadership.”
J. Kenneth Galbraith
(The Age of Uncertainty (1977), p. 330.)