I recently invested time with a couple young folks. They are the definition of winners. And, they’re learning to become autonomous and struggling to remain together. They are becoming distinct and disconnected. This is painful to watch and excruciating to experience. They are working their way through this struggle. It sucks and really hurts.
Acutely.
Remember, if you are in the midst of something that sucks and is seemingly getting worse, this is part in parcel to every relationship of any kinda depth. Peaceful coexistence doesn’t come from an endless array of “bon bon’s.” Chocolate is good, more chocolate is probably better but it doesn’t deeply satisfy. Something strong (drink/drug/distraction) won’t do the trick for long either.
We are meant for deep, meaningful relationships. These are not built on easy street. Sweet nor strong won’t help, whatthehellwill, you ask?
Choosing to lose.
Swallow hard and move toward another, anyway. Stay in there when feeling wrecked and wronged. Hang in when greeted by “get lost.” Learn to hear the yearning enveloped in the nastygram shell. Damn. You see, friend, transformational relationships are built when someone hurting, someone on the brink of losing it, someone tired, and someone very human and used to getting things his or her way, makes a crazy decision to “choose to lose.” It truly doesn’t take two. Transformation takes ONE, distinct and deeply connected, BBTL. Be one of the few. Fix you (not another).
Choose to lose.
God, help me see the wisdom in losing more. God, help me learn to understand victory within allows me to embrace taking second with another. God help me lose. God, help me.
Live hard. Love harder. Much harder…
BUILT TO LEAD 