Wrote version 1.0 of this back in 2010. Here’s the rinse…
The desire to repair another person is another human universal. We think we’ve got “another” figured out, and the other tends to think the same. Funny isn’t it we both, in the end, end up feeling nobody gets us.
Humans do not draw near to the person with their “fix.”
Humans come close to one who comes alongside, and from a full heart offers another the gift of their ears. We fall hard for anyone willing to give this gift. True. AND, sometimes very sad…
Remember, the person we find most interesting and intriguing is not the one with the most persuasive or talkative mouth. The most interesting person in any room, is always the one most interested.
Want to become a master connector and have people drawing near? Start bringing the best questions, the most inquisitive heart, and an open mind to the party. Real relationships are always unequal, lack reciprocity, and are led by one, not both. Real relationships only happen when one person kills their desire to be understood, to be heard, and to have the last word. Real relationships are so rare because most of us can’t stop interrupting.
I can’t make you become interested in another. I can’t force another to become interested in me. I can, however, give the gift of being interested to those I love. Damn, love is tough.
Damn straight it is…
BUILT TO LEAD 
“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”Jesus in John 13:35