Author: Chet

Want more willpower? There are no hacks. There is one way. We now know (and have named) the area in our brain responsible for increasing willpower. Anterior Mid-cingulate cortex (aMCC) is its name. We should rename it Goggins, to be fair. According to leading neuroscience, it grows when you do something hard that you don’t … Continue reading Do hard things…

We have a few very self aware clients who are hardening their minds. These studs are going through hard stuff like the sale of a company, divorce, disease, and rapid, almost runaway growth. Their hardened minds are serving them well. They are doing more than they think and it’s fun to build beside them as … Continue reading Harden the mind…

M. Scott Peck, in this book, The Road less Traveled, describes the change framework between psychotherapist and patient the way we describe it between leader and team. I wrote about this in the 8 Essentials of Leading Teams on page 212… “It has been said that the successful psychotherapist must bring to the psychotherapeutic relationship … Continue reading Not therapists. Builders…

Yesterday was rough. I’m fine; a few of my clients, not so much. So, I could not detach and still be their Builder or friend. I am attached to so many fine folks. When they hurt, I hurt with them. When they win, I smile as if the victory were my own. I’m no longer … Continue reading Attached…

Moments of truth (MOT) define us. We all know this. We don’t remember most of our lives. We all have moments, however, we cannot forget. The birth of our children. The first time we experience the loss of a loved one. The moment our brakes go out on the top of a mountain. The call … Continue reading MOT…

Even with great faith, we will all be overwhelmed with even greater fear. Do not fear these moments. Expect them. Preload your response. Tell yourself not to be normal and go dark, run away, and blame others. Run toward your fear. Tell yourself the only way ‘round is through. Embrace the pain and suffering. Tell … Continue reading Even with great faith…

You were not over served. You had too much to drink. Own it. There is an ever increasing absence of personal responsibility in our modern world. You will not be the best version of yourself without developing the discipline of looking in the mirror; out the window, not so much. What habits are you hiding … Continue reading You were not…

The Real All Americans, by Sally Jenkins covers the story of Pratt and his big dream to educate, instead of anniliating the Indians. His vision wasn't shared by many. He fought for it and eventually started the first school for Indians. It was named Carlisle. By the early 1900's they were playing football and were … Continue reading Go Chiefs…