Author: John Rue

This framework came up twice today in conversations with a client and a fellow builder. I think it is useful for all of us who are letting go of "baggage" on our Builder's Journey from living in a self-centered/others-controlling way to becoming core-centered/self-controlling. All of us are victimized from time to time by circumstances or … Continue reading Victims, Survivors, and Thrivers

In practice #1 with a new team yesterday I asked WHY we stop dreaming? WHY do we need someone to remind us how? And to give us permission? This quote from John Eldredge's book Desire hits all 3 questions dead center. I left part of it blank for the C.E.O. of Y.O.U. to fill in … Continue reading Why we stop Dreaming

We began practice #2 reading "Ideaing instead of idling..." We wrote about and then practiced speaking & listening what we learned from Toto's wisdom in an "ideaing" and "ANDing way." Everyone could tell it felt good. We were primed for the rest of practice, where these next generation leaders had come prepared to talk about … Continue reading Ideaing is NOT Idling

  Nothing really new here.... just a reminder because we all have an "F-ing" problem.   We FORGET. The secret of the greatest individuals, teams & leaders is that they are constantly BUILDING.   Which is different than just DOING.    DO or DIE is a fear-based push up the hill that may work for a season but … Continue reading BUILD or…DIE

Sounds like a contradiction. Deeper waters seem scary - we might lose control and go under. So we live in the shallows, work in the shallows, play in the shallows...and drown in the shallows. It's counterintuitive, but shallow waters have bigger storms, bigger waves, and bigger consequences. When tsunamis come, it's the shallow coastal waters … Continue reading The security of deeper waters

I'm writing this sitting in a hospital room in S. Florida with my dad who's fighting to recover from congestive heart failure. I've taken the week to give him & me the gift of time. There has been a change in the meal delivery & pickup program that has left the mid-level of the system … Continue reading Memo to the Boss: Don’t Do My Job For Me

Today my client was tired. Needed a vacation....had 3 trips coming up in 2 months that he didn't want to go on. More coming later this year he couldn't bear to think about it. "Actually", he told me, "I'm depressed. I can't do this anymore. How do leaders of even bigger systems do it? How … Continue reading Meet the REAL ene-ME…

Reading about "A Failure of Nerve" isn't just hard for me -- it SUCKS.  It sucks because there is so much truth to it.   So much of what I lack in life in experiencing more FULLNESS of life, the abundant life of my labor of love, my OPUS at BUILT TO LEAD, is because I shrink back from taking … Continue reading A Success of Courage