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Edward Deci, in his research on intrinsic motivation in team settings, found three aspects that must be present. Sense of autonomy, sense of competency, and a sense of connectedness. That last one is easily missed. It's the inverse of research showing that people are far more likely to quit their job because of a bad … Continue reading Connectedness and motivation

You are not too much or too little. You are not too young or too old. You are not too much of this and too little of that. ”A bruised reed He will not break, and a faintly burning wick he will not quench; he will faithfully bring forth justice. Isaiah 42:3 Your I am … Continue reading I am’s…

"Self-esteem is a cultural creation not a human universal." Certainly the notion that its externally built, is...I believe. The amount of praise heaped on small children in our culture is absolutely bonkers. It's a river that my wife and I are constantly trying to fight against and wade upstream. We love our son deeply and … Continue reading Drowning in a cultural river of praise

These are some of my high school classmates and members of our golf team from 1974-1977. We played Seminole together yesterday. Tee it up there again today. Tomorrow, I tee it up with JordyhitforteeONE and some of his friends. And, have practice with another client who winters up in Jupiter. Monday running a handful of … Continue reading Integrate…

Make peace with the inescapable reality of problems. Life is simply a series of them that we put our energy toward. Don't labor under the delusion that if you work fast and hard enough they'll all disappear. Problems are part of what makes life magnificent, I believe. From another lens, life IS problems - a … Continue reading Peace with problems

For the past two days, JimmyTHEgant has shadowed me, told stories, and seared all who would let his sorriness in to theirs. Been epic. Boardrooms turned into sacred space. Locker rooms? Even more scared. Corner offices? Become places of even deeper caring. The melody line? Well, the most common question asked was around how did … Continue reading Preparation…

JimmyTHEgant is in the house. He’s the love cat of BTL. He was one of our countries great warriors. We claim him, now, as one of ours. He had seven practices today. Seven more tomorrow. He learned a lot. Taught, maybe more. There will be less whining from those given the gift of his presence … Continue reading JimmyTHEgant…