Today one of my client worked on one of his thousand nuances. He’s found the melody line and authored his OPUS, sCORE, and PoP with clarity and discipline.
Now comes the fun part. Nuancing. This is how excellence is built. You discover who you are, find your voice, sing it out, and practice it for at least 10,000 hours. AND, you get busy getting after a thousand tiny nuances that make a world of difference. You don’t stop just because you’ve made it through the melody line piece of the puzzle. You’ve only just begun, remember.
Today, he and I played with two pages in the emotional intelligence essential of the 12. We read from a dead French guy and from a crazy American, me. We discovered, again, the power of “anding.”
Emotional intelligence is hard to measure, tough to teach, easy to see, and rare to find. Here’s one way to know if you possess some of this kinda smarts. Do not miss this. This is HUGE.
Do you know when the right call is attunement, and when the right call is detachment?
Emotionally intelligent leaders know when to deepen thier attunement to the needs of others, AND when to leave their feelings behind and simply challenge. Sometimes we empathise and sometimes we PUSH. Sometimes we say “tell me more” and sometimes we call them out of victimhood. Sometimes we feel their pain and sometimes we cause more pain, on purpose! Sometimes we seek to understand and sometimes we simply push for performance. Sometimes attuned AND sometimes not…
Attuned and detached.
Most leaders are one or the other. The ONE you want, the ONE that leads to excellence, and the ONE that isn’t natural, is sometimes attuned AND sometimes detached.
“Anding” is the ONE you want…
BUILT TO LEAD 
Good shit.
Thanks…
I’d add a little to this, Chet. I say, always be attuned to the people and situations that are part of your OPUS. Always tune in, then–decidre whether to push, or pull, or just “be with.” How to decide? Always with love–“the act of will to contribute to the spiritual growth of yourself or another.” They may need a push. They may need a pull. They may need someone to grieve with, and not make any suggestions. All this decidre-ing is REAL. HARD. WORK. But, you know that it’s what’s needed to live life awake and aware. Thanks for the post.