Today, I met with a client that is transitioning. It feels right, it feels good, and it’s a mess. All transitions of power, regardless of whether they are forced, planned, or something in between, are always a mess.
I mostly listened and asked a couple questions. It was clear that this transition wasn’t really about the transition of power, it was more about going through this transition, together. You see, this client happens to be a couple and whenever we transition through a mess of our making or a mess of anothers, it’s most important that we go through it, together.
Today, remember that you too are transitioning through something and it most likely feels like a storm. If you’re a man reading this, remember that your tendency when overwhelmed by your mess is to go it ALONE. Women, not so much. Your tendency is to ruminate with others. The problem, stereotypically, is easy to see. The storm is messy and most couples seek shelter in opposite directions. Men head out for a beer, a hunt, or some kinda distraction and their women head off to their book club, bridge group, counselor, or womens coffee and TALK.
Today, I helped a couple move toward one another to seek shelter from their storm. Simple as that.
There are no perfect people and, therefore, nobody makes the “perfect couple.” All relationships are messy and filled with storms. The relationships that last, and are worth watching, are comprised of people that have learned to move toward each other even when it’s NOT the easy thing to do. Oftentimes, doing what is right is choosing to do what is painful.
Today, a couple chose to move toward becoming ALLONE instead of going it alone. All ONE, remember is just one “L” of a difference from alone.
God, help me move toward those that I LOVE especially when I’m in the storm and the easy move is away and alone. God, help me remember that your desire is for me taste ALLONE.
God, thanks for your promise to always provide a shelter from the storm…
BUILT TO LEAD 