Yesterday, during practice 217, I watched fourteen pairs of BTL buddies talk. This wasn’t just any talk. You see, these teammates shared stuff most couples don’t dare touch. The topic?
Yeah, these k-dev krazies talked about where they struggle resisting impulse. The room erupted in smiles as I set the seconds timer and let these pairs connect, deeply connect. Almost twenty minutes later, the smiles were still present, and as Tay noticed, the mood was lighthearted. I laughed as I let that in. The mood was lighthearted while the topic was internal strife and struggle.
All life requires attention. We know this. We tend to forget it though, don’t we? Living things die without attention. Now, do I have yours?
Don’t underestimate the high cost of inattention. Attention takes almost all of your psychic energy. Did you know that? Fact. Listening drains your psychic reserves. Speaking ccd (clear, concise, and direct) is not easy either. Talking is not only time consuming, it’s psychologically draining when the topic is a tough one. Here’s the good news. Over time and with the aid of deliberate practice, you can talk about just about anything with almost anyone. You can learn to focus on the facts more than your feelings. You can learn to slow your cadence and even regulate the temperature in the room like a virtuous thermostat. You can learn, like the k-dev krazies, to remain lighthearted while taking on heavy topics. You can learn to love listening. You can learn to love by listening.
Now, imagine if you and I could learn to carry these kinda conversations home with us…