Courage is not the absence of fear, it’s more love than fear and acting accordingly. All our clients are courageous. It takes courage to hire a builder to come into your space and illuminate your bullshit and blindspots. It takes courage to start anything, like a new way of eating, relating, or even something as simple as keeping your mouth shut when your mind is triggered!
The ancient Greeks were right. The opposite of fear is not courage. The opposite of fear is love. If you want to act more courageously in your MOT (moments of truth), you will when your mind is made up, so to speak. Your mind is not made in MOT, it’s revealed. You don’t rise to the occasion, remember, you fall to the level of your training. In other words, courage is not summoned when you most need it. Courage is built slowly in your core. The more conscious you are of your worldview, identity, principles, purposes, and love to’s, the more reflexively you act accordingly. You don’t suddenly “get the nerve.” You develop nerve by knowing who you are and what you stand for. So, when MOT arrives you don’t think, you simply stand – in love.
Your problem is not your fear, anxiety, and doubt. Your problem is your core is weak. If you want to act more consistently when the heat is up or your spirit down, build more strength within. Decide now exactly who you are, what you stand for, and where you’ve got to find more love to do what you can when it matters most. Decide now. Your problem is you either think you’ve already done the work (pride), or you think you’re too busy doing stuff to slow down and build within (foolishness), or you think the real problem is out there with your parents, particular circumstances out of your control, or some other persons peculiarity that would certainly trip up anyone including you (victimhood). You are your own worst enemy (me too).
Life is difficult. There is no easy button. Courage is required. Your core is the center of both fear and love. Your job is to find more love. This requires rinsing, repairing, and real, hard, work within. You are not done. Keep working. Build more strength within, friend. I’m glad we had this talk, this morning. I feel better already knowing more truth about my troubles. How ‘bout you? Good.
Live hard. Love harder (Thanks, Teeks)…