Today, I reminded a young client of the big four essentials in the 12 playbook. First we build the core because everything starts with clarity within. Next we build humility to keep us from getting high on self as we learn to do hard things well. Third we build courage. Life is difficult. It takes more love than fear to act into hard places with no easy answers. And the fourth is discipline. We want courage but not the reckless, headlong kind that can get us killed. We had a good, hard practice you see. The BTL builder is here to demand excellence, not enable mediocrity. Any candy ass coach can do that. My opus demands more. Fact. So, as we put a bow on practice, I asked my client to write me his learning from practice. He wrote well. I share some of it with you. You haven’t the context but the content is rich.
“The sole purpose of a achievement is to launch the next initiative. Dying is easy, everyone does it. Living is the hard part. To embrace life, I must embrace the hard. Every victory is followed by day #1 of training for the next race. The next battle. The next adventure. The next discipline in pursuit of the life I was created to live. The man I am created to be. The impact I was created to achieve. Choosing the pain of discipline is choosing life. Refusing is choosing death. Like the marathon, victory comes through the discipline of each step. And the race is lost by the smallest distractions. Skipping the hill runs, buying the wrong shoes, eating the wrong fuel. The smallest mistake, the smallest lapse can cause destruction. Do the work. Fight the war. Do the discipline. Even when it sucks.”
Pass/fail, friend. Pass/fail. My client got better today by getting his nose rubbed in it. A huge integrity gap was illuminated and it was ugly, painful, and honest. He’s now focused on becoming a better man. We’re scoring something significant toward creating the life he desires, he’s just not yet disciplined toward. This one’s gonna hurt him before it helps. Living aligned is not for the soft. Anybody can live loose and easy, right? Only the few are strong enough to live aligned. Today, my client learned he’s out of alignment. He committed to do the work even when it sucks. Pass/fail. Real, hard, opus.
Live hard. Love harder…