Discovery questions illuminate. Like the rising sun, a well authored discovery sheds light on what’s always been there. Discovery questions, all 81 of them, are an opportunity to see who we are, how we think, what we believe, and begin the process of going deeper. You see, friend, self awareness starts with you and I seeing ourselves as we really are.
A 360 tells us how others see us. MBTI tells us how they see us. Kolbe tells us how they profile us. DISC does likewise. Even customized profilers put together by the latest algorithms and using the coolest analytics can only spit out another version of what they believe we are. These tools are helpful. None are a mirror. There are no tools that offer you a mirror so you can perfectly see yourself. Only you with the help of a few truth tellers can illuminate blind spots. Fact.
At BTL, we believe self awareness begins with self discovery. This is why we always begin the building process here. A well authored discovery will be painful and powerful. As you begin to deepen your perspective on you, you and your builder can work toward the dream of building a better, more virtuous you. We will use many tools, techniques, assessments, and assignments toward this aim. None are more powerful than your pen. As I’m reading Lewis this morning it’s been illuminating to realize how easily we suffer from self deception on this road to self awareness. I am hopeful what today will bring to light with my new client. I know that learning more about him, more of me will come to light too. You see, friend, together we transform. It’s more than our tagline at BTL. It’s what we expect from our clients and demand from ourselves.
As we go deeper in discovery together, we learn the lesson of the elite – hard on self without getting down on self. Hard on self, not high on self either. Self aware, not self delusional. Discovery is a tool for transforming from our natural state of self centered/other controlling toward CORE centered/self controlling. Today, a new client and I begin discovery. I know he’s not the only one whose got a lot to learn and see.
God, help me see me the way you do. God, help me look within and align beliefs with behaviors. God, help me contemplate Christ and become a more virtuous version of who you’ve made me to be. God, help me. I too have much to discover. What about you friend? What are you discovering about you?
Live hard. Love harder…