Not every question has an answer you like giving. Chet challenged me to "write more about why you don’t write more. Shoot me the argument. Actually, you won’t have to. You’ll just gain the clarity to…" Thank you not so very much, Toto. Why I don't write more is simple -- I don't LIKE to. … Continue reading Half-Brained (aka why I don’t write more)
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Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 4 of 4
This final trap may be the most widespread, and the saddest. And none are immune. Thursday I facilitated practice #2 with a non-profit team of heroes who serve neglected youth & single moms in one of our city's most troubled neighborhoods. Since some weren't at practice #1, we wrote again on "why are you here?" A quiet one shared she'd had a breakthrough at our first … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 4 of 4
Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 3 of 4
We humans are loss aversive by nature, so for ego survival we defend/deny/destroy. This is at the heart of the third trap on the Builder’s Journey which Robert McGee calls the ‘BLAME GAME.’ Often it ‘lies’ underneath the missplaced Dream States called Approval Addiction & the Performance Trap The false belief is that you aren’t significant unless you are RIGHT, and that … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 3 of 4
Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 2 of 4
A second trap on the Builder's Journey is what Robert McGee calls 'APPROVAL ADDICTION.' It often 'lies' underneath the Performance Trap (Dream & Do Traps: Part 1 of 4). The false belief is that you aren’t significant unless & until you have earned ___________’s approval (e.g. of your boss, mentor, mom, dad, granddad, spouse. . .it may not even … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 2 of 4
Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 1 of 4
A problem inherent to “Dreaming” (and why many often stop) is it actually increases dissonance -- i.e. tension & dissatisfaction with our status quo. We humans hate dissonance, and will do almost anything to resolve it. Since blogging about DREAD & Die, or DREAM & Do I've been in some cool books & practices with fellow builders to … Continue reading Dream & Do TRAPS: Part 1 of 4
DREAD & Die, or DREAM & Do?
Part of the reason we LIE to ourselves is it helps justify that nagging dissonance we feel when we've "settled" into mediocrity. It's the narcotic for medicating the pain of "slow death". But the fear behind the lie doesn't die so easily. Dread is the reason most Americans go to sleep with the TV on. As Pascal … Continue reading DREAD & Die, or DREAM & Do?
WWW this. . .another one “L” of a difference
At BUILT TO LEAD, our purpose is to transform collections of inviduals, teams & leaders from being ALONE to becoming ALL ONE. There is literally one "L" of a difference between the two -- and the "L" stands for LOVE. Teams & leaders who love what they do, why & how they do it, and who they work with attain … Continue reading WWW this. . .another one “L” of a difference
Losing your grip
One of my passions is playing baseball -- specifically, pitching. The past couple of years the innings have been fewer. We've moved into a more competitive league, and younger horses have become our mainstay on the mound. Earlier this year seemed like it might be my last -- the "out" pitches that used to be my trademark … Continue reading Losing your grip
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