TZ, at yesterdays practice with the team of six,confessed that sometimes he feels like he’s about to be found out. He feels clueless, at times, and is certain that others “gotta clue.” He’s right and he’s wrong.
According to modern pyschology, a full 85% of any group of peers suffers from what they’ve coined the “imposter syndrome.” In other words, when you’re in a room with one hundred teammates, 85 of them feel that they don’t belong. 85 feel that they are posers. Here’s the funny part. Most of the posers are the 15% that think they’ve got their shit together. How funny is that?
Today, as you lead whatever you’re attempting to lead remember that the team knows you can’t possibly have it all together. Your attempt at faking it, aint making it. Go on, willingly expose your faults. Take your Shell Answer Man mask and toss it in the trash. You don’t need to have all the answers. And, if you did I guess we would prop you up on a pedestal and proceed with the worship service. Do you really want that kinda following?
Throughout history, humans have given their absolute best effort when following a huMAN. Be one.
And, while you’re at it, practice keeping the right secrets. Hold onto your acts that you tend to think are you at your virtuous best. Don’t publicize them, flaunt them, or proudly parade them in front of your team. Bury them deep inside your being. This way their interest will accumulate within you. Your virtuous nature will expand. Keep these acts a secret. And, when you f’ up something furious, willingly expose your faults. This will force your vices out of you. This will free you of their nasty hold on you.
This formula will not get you elected. You will fail as a politician. However, this will build you into a real leader. You will not feel like a poser. You will not worry about the imposter syndrome. You will not have to worry about what mask to wear when you head out.
You will simply pull on your blue jeans, throw on your tee shirt, and head out the door or head back home with the quiet confidence that can only come from within. The “damn few” will follow. That will be enough.
TZ, keep the confessions coming…