Nearly every principle we teach must be violated at some point in time. Take integrating as an example. We believe integrating work and life is the road to life at it’s finest. We are meant to love our work, love our life, and seamlessly toggle back and forth between our CORE purposes/passions and the passionate pursuit of our work purpose – our OPUS. In other words, to integrate work and life to such a degree that we blur the lines between ’em. Chateaubriand, remember. Good.
However, when dealing with some kinda chronic pain, adversity, and distressor, the brain that integrates becomes it’s own worst enemy. So, when you find yourself overwhelmed and chronically so, slow down and stop your ruminating mind. Compartmentalize, friend. Separate your work/life. Set yourself up to limit your distressor. Set clear boundaries that shut off your mind from thinking about the pain at home, or work, or with another loved one. You see, you’ve got to take care of yourself and remember to put your oxygen mask on first, before you give air to another. Compartmentalize. Give care when you set your mind on “being there” for another. Take care when it’s time to take care of yourself. Give care to your work and give care to your wife. Don’t mix the two when your mind can’t make sense of both in healthy, holistic ways. Most times we integrate. Some times we separate.
Even the very strong cannot always play the role of thermostat and regulate the room. Know your limits and know when you’re temperature’s running high and needs some space. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Slowly. Deeply. Ask God for help. Receive. Let help in. Take care. Good.
Give and take care, friend. Give and take care…