Remembering my place…

Forgiveness is all about you making up your mind.

You can look at your offender and get even or you can give grace. I tend to want justice when wronged and grace when I wrong another. Yeah, I’ve got issues. Every one of our close relationships will deepen or dry up depending on our ability to forgive. Recently a client gave me a little book titled simply Forgiveness, by Adam Hamilton. I’m not certain, but I think this was some kinda hint. On page 53, Adam drives home a wonderful point around forgiveness as he describes our tendency to hold onto our skewed sense of justice. Slow down and sit with this one for awhile…

“Because we are human, all of us sometimes do things we shouldn’t do. When your partner, has done everything or, more realistically, almost everything possible to take the pain away, to lift the rocks from your backpack, then it’s up to you. Sometimes we decide that we like to collect these old rocks. We hear our partner earnestly seek our forgiveness, but we decide to hold on to the rock. We decide that we like it in our backpack. At that point, the offended becomes the offender. That’s no better or fairer than creating it in the first place. Both repentance and forgiveness take effort. Yet both are works and expressions of love.”

Want a hand to hold onto that deeply connects with you? Lean toward grace, not justice. Develop the habit of expressing your regret and repairing, of accepting your partners attempt at repair and gracefully forgiving. Let go of the rocks, not the hand. You choose what you hold onto. Your choices have consequences. My natural tendency is to hold onto the hurt instead of the hand. I pray a lot for help here. I could use a lot more…

Jesus, thank You for your offer of Grace. And, thanks for holding my hand and letting go of my hurt. Thanks for taking my rocks and placing them “as far away as the east is from the west.” Thanks for Grace. Thanks for these beautiful, Rocky Mountains and helping me remember my place. Good…

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