Hint & hope or hit & help…

Today, during practice 69 with a team of leaders, we talked about where they wanted to take practice to make the time most productive. We were a team of twelve and there were almost twelve good ideas put forth. FM, baby. During practice 25 with a team of ballers, we struggled to get similar clarity from the same exercise. The difference was not the setting, time of day, or any other circumstance.

The difference? Trust.

You see, friend, the level of dialogue reflects the level of trust. The tightest teams have the best fights. The tightest teams have the least fear and the most love. The tightest teams value truth, even when it hurts. The tightest teams do not necessarily have the most talent but they do get the most out of whatever talent they have. The highest performing teams have a depth of trust that most can’t even imagine, much less ever taste. Trust, there is nothing better when it comes to getting better…

You do not get the team you want, leader. You get the team you deserve. Want a better team? Become a better leader. Trust yourself, not because you’re some kinda Pollyanna positive, but because you’ve led an examined life and are discovering that you have what it takes. Trust your team. Stop babying/coddling them. Make them do what they can. Push more tension toward them and learn to make it feel like it’s their own idea. In practice 69, one leader put a bow on it as we wrapped it up with their writing. He wrote that he’s gonna stop hinting. You see he holds back speaking truth to some of his teammates who he’s not quite sure can handle it. So, he hints and hopes they get the hint, so to speak. He’s gonna stop hinting and start hitting ‘em with truth in Love. From hint to hit. He’s going to hit them with hard truth they can use to get better instead of hoping they pick up on it on their own.

Hit, don’t hint. Hit because you want to help, not hurt. Hit because it’s the right thing to do. Hit because you are kind not nice. You see, nice people hint and hope. Kind leaders, on the other hand, hit and help. Stop hinting around, faux leader. Hit and help. Hit your team with hard truth and ask them to hit you with hard truth too. This is the right fight, the fight to improve performance, not prove a point. Stop hinting, friend.

Hit and help. Good…

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