Feel and think…

The best things in life follow a distinct pattern, I’ve discovered. The pattern is feel and think. Let me briefly explain.

Think back to the love of your life. You felt the electricity and then thought about what to do with it. Think back to your home purchase or design. You felt something when you walked in the foyer that informed your thinking – this is the place for us to make our home. Think back to your favorite restaurant, book, vacation, car, bicycle, boat, friend, or food – it’s a feeling that informs your thinking. This is why when it comes to your opus, friend, your builder is going to make you get to “hell yeah, that’s right” with regard to your O & P (Overarching Vision and Purpose) before they let you think through the unifying strategies for how you live it out. You’ve got to feel the “O” the same way you’ve felt any other love, if it’s to become your labor of love. Make sense?

After you feel love, you’ve got to think through how you’re going to stay connected when you don’t feel so much love. We feel our way to the big dream, then we stick to disciplines we’ve thought through to live life (unifying strategies). Do not mix the order. It doesn’t work well. When we get busy doing, even good stuff, before we feel the dream with crystal clarity, we get busy on the do do trail. It’s hard to do do do and then feel like you’re living the dream. Slow down and think for awhile. Slow down.

Feel and think. Dream and do. Not do or die. Not think and hope the feelings come. Once we get the dream down and it’s worth living, we think our way to living it. Feel and think. This is more of the why behind the design of the BTL opus. Order matters. Do not miss the most important piece. A labor of love starts with a feeling. You feel energized, engaged, and ecstatic even at the thought of living the dream. Every morning when I get out of my bed, I thank God for the gift of another day. I remind myself of who I am and meditate on my strong core. I reflect on my opus – my labor of love. And then I get busy preparing for practice, being with, Miss, sport, study, giving more than I take, and it is good. Feel and think. Good…

4 thoughts on “Feel and think…

  1. “After you feel love, you’ve got to think through how you’re going to stay connected when you don’t feel so much love.”

    An iteration of this is going into my CORE after a little rinsing! Thank you, Chet!

  2. Toto,

    Simon Sinek would agree with you. Our limbic brain is where we make all major decisions — it’s our emotional center where we love or loathe — but it has no capacity for language. This is why when we find that perfect restaurant, bike, beach or book it FEELS right – but why? Hmm… at first we’re not sure – it’s mostly a gut feeling.

    Until we go deeper.

    At BTL, we reverse engineer what FEELS right to get to the root, which is something really important and something we put language to — namely our most deeply held beliefs, our worldview, which informs our values. Simon Sinek would call that the core “why” of the golden circle.

    To start with why, start writing about what you believe. And then dream about what the future could look like if these beliefs became reality. Throw up those thoughts of what your heart sees as if in a painting where the words are the brush. This is the stuff of O-verarching Vision. It’s what your heart sees could be. This is also why the melody line of the O is the P – it’s the core purpose, the core why, which ties the vision all together.

    Once we know our O & our P, then we engage our neo-cortex to think about the “How” (U-nifying Strategies) and the “What” (S-corecard & PoP) to complete the rest of the golden circle, because like Simon Says, the order matters.

    Feel and think. Good. Leaders are believers — I’m feeling it. And leaders are connectors — oh yeah, I’m thinking this is the builder’s journey called O.P.U.S. from a lone to all ONE.

    Together we transform. Always together.

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