As a BTL builder, you use whatever is necessary to cause growth in another. It’s our responsibility to be a catalyst for growth, even if we dissolve by so doing. Unlike a true catalyst, the builder always changes as a result of “being the change” we want to see in any of our family, friends, and clients. Our aim is to build a few – it’s always a few that create flow. Experiencing moments of team chemistry remind me of the Spartan 300. Here’s an exerpt from the book Gates of Fire, by Steven Pressfield describing the secret sauce of Spartan chemistry. Check it out. The man nicknamed “Suicide” was not a leader – just another teammate.
“When I first came to Lakedaemon and they called me ‘Suicide,’ I hated it. But in time I came to see its wisdom, unintentional as it was. For what can be more noble than to slay oneself? Not literally. Not with a blade in the guts. But to extinguish the selfish self within, that part which looks only to its own preservation, to save its own skin. That, I saw, was the victory you Spartans had gained over yourselves. That was the glue. It was what you had learned and it made me stay, to learn it too. When a warrior fights not for himself, but for his brothers, when his most passionately sought goal is neither glory nor his own life’s preservation, but to spend his substance for them, his comrades, not to abandon them, not to prove unworthy of them, then his heart truly has achieved contempt for death, and with that he transcends himself and his actions touch the sublime. This is why the true warrior cannot speak of battle save to his brothers who have been there with him. This truth is too holy, too sacred, for words.”
Want a better team, leader? Die to self. Kill your selfish ambitions. Build big, crazy big, ambitions for the team. Give what you want from your teammates. Give without restriction or expectation of return. Give because you want to. Give. You see, friend, glue comes when someone gives. Not all of us can be like Izzy (WSOC glue), Sammy (Grappler glue, Favorite Farmer (grappler glue), or Ryan (Lacrosse glue). These four are glue and so much more; they’re glue leaders! Anybody on the team, however, can be glue. Gain victory over your selfishness. Build crazy big, ambition for the team. Fight for them. Be the glue, not the self absorbed, less mature version of you. What kind of peer are you becoming on your teams? Are you spending your substance for the good of your team? Does your presence hold the team together? Izzy is glue. Are you?
Live hard. Love harder…