You never told me that…

Never say this to a teammate or a loved one in response to them saying something complimentary to you. Instead, tell them the truth. If you’ve never heard them say what they just said, tell them something like “That’s so kind of you to say a,b,c., I’ve never heard this from you before.”

“You never told me that,” feels like an attack even when it’s not. “I’ve never heard this before,” is an admission that you’ve not heard them. This puts the onus on you to do a better job listening and oozes humility. This is nothing huge. Mastery is never about doing huge things, it’s about doing a ton of little things like this, my friend.

This is a turn toward. Master connectors turn toward and choose their words wisely. Do you? Write what you’re thinking. Where do you need to master the turn toward in your work/life? 

Live hard. Love harder. Ever heard me say that before…

1 thought on “You never told me that…

  1. Chet, I have found that the art of listening is something that too many fail to understand. I was there as well especially when it came to those who mean the most to me. When I started the practice of active listening about a decade ago, I found that my relationship began to deepen and become stronger.

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