Today as I read Chet’s blog two thoughts came to mind:
First thought…. Thank you, Chet, for your transparency and sharing the fact that you have experienced depression, what you felt like and what you did to manage it.
Second thought…. I would have to agree with you, so many people are reluctant to reach out and ask for help. Our pride, feelings, and fear of exposing ourselves can be to overwhelming. People are so reluctant to reach out for help!
When you look at the National Statistics on Depression clearly, we have a problem in the US and Worldwide in how we are treating this illness.
- Major Depressive Disorder
The leading cause of disability in the U.S. for ages 15 to 44.3.
MDD affects more than 16.1 million American adults, or about 6.7%of the U.S. population age 18 and older each year.
- About 20 percent of all teens experience depression before they reach adulthood. Between 10 to 15 percent suffer from symptoms at any one time. Only 30 percent of depressed teens are being treated for it.
- Right now, nearly 10 million Americans are living with a serious mental disorder. The most common are anxiety disorders major depression and bipolar disorder.
It’s not hard for me to believe any of these statistics, we see this in our work and how the stress of life can snowball into many of the dis-orders these statistics address. I watched my grandmother suffer from depression and the debilitating state that drugs, shock treatments and finally surgery affected her. My mother talked about depression and helped us understand that it ran deep within our family, how to recognize and manage it.
I will echo Chet’s melody line, don’t wait for a crisis that can knock you off your feet, it’s around the corner! Look around you, at home, at work, at the bar, on the playground with your kids, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million! We are medicating and literally anesthetizing ourselves with drugs, alcohol, and consumption of every kind to lessen our anxieties.
What can you do to build a more resilient Mindset?
- This is why Dr. Angela Duckworth has found that “cultivating hope” is one of the most important aspects of being “gritty” or resilient. One of the most important books in my library! Read it, prepare now, and build your core!
- Dr. Daniel Gilbert, a Harvard psychologist, has found that very few people spend time imagining their FUTURE SELF. We spend much more ruminating on the past and mistakes we have made. Dan’s book is another great resource, Stumbling on to Happiness
- You can’t live in the Present if you can’t forgive yourself and others.
- You can’t live in the Present if you can’t Imagine a Future filled with Hope and Big Dreams.
- Living in the Present requires Building a Strong CORE, (Worldview, Identity, Principles, Purpose, Passions and Process) that’s what we do at Built to Lead….
“Together we Awaken, Challenge, and Transform a few individuals, teams, and leaders from A Lone toward to all ONE, one L of a difference. One distinct and deeply connected, Becoming BTL. Together, we transform. Always together.”
Viktor Frankl, the Holocaust survivor summed-it up best: Without having a future to look forward and stretch to, the present becomes meaningless and unbearable.
I have highlighted 5 resources that are recognized as some of the best reading and research you can find on building a grittier, more resilient mindset. Do the hard thing now!