That was my ccd coaching to a client I’ve been transacting with for far too long. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve done good work together. I’ve helped him. He’s helped me. It’s been good. This is the enemy. Good, remember, is the enemy of great.
I pushed his sorriness to open the F&%$ up. This scares him to death. He is a fortress, always has been. He walls people off. Holds them at arms length, including me. Vulnerability, he said, isn’t something he does. He likes transacting and yet wants more depth. He just doesn’t want it to hurt, you know, going deeper.
Transforming sounds good until you realize the cost. Transformational relationships take more then time, they take heart. You will get hurt. You will feel weak. You will lose control. Fact.
So you want a few who get you? Open up. Lay your heart in their hands. Going deep is scary and it’s the only way to transforming together. Transacting is normal. It’s what the world does when at it’s best. You get something. The other party does too. That all you want? Slow down and reflect. Listen to Clive talking…
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness.”
Live hard. Love harder. OTFU…