Author: John Rue

...reveal the maturity and wisdom in your CORE. The questions you ask are windows into your W-orldvew, your I-dentity, and your P-rinciples.   Builders know they are a continuous W.I.P.     One of the litmus tests of where someone is on their Builder's Journey is the questions they ask, or don't ask, the order, … Continue reading The Questions you ask…

...to a HIGH performance culture. This is a melody line in our playbooks and on this blog.  Of course, what's different is we typically hear this phrase as "MY way OR the highway." A couple nuances became clearer to me in practice last week.   Per Simon Sinek, great leaders who inspire action start with … Continue reading My way IS the HIGHway…

Like we saw in Choose Your Feelings, you can voluntarily influence your involuntary feelings by building a strong core.  Over time this will produce a trained response more often and more quickly, and a triggered response less often and for less duration.   When you give your feelings the freedom to control you or shut … Continue reading Choose Your Feelings: Freedom AND Response-ability…

...by choosing your Worldview. Shadowing Toto at practice 190-something last week, I was reminded of this paradox.  This practice was on Building Your Emotional Intelligence in the 12 Essentials playbook.   After doing some reading, the team did some writing on their emotional triggers, how they are affected by them, and the subsequent effect on … Continue reading Choose your Feelings…

An addiction is a "feeling disorder" which leads to slavery, not freedom. One of the telltale signs of an addiction is spending time and/or $$ on something which tears you & others down, not builds you & others up.  From a factual sense, addictions are utterly illogical. This utter illogic is not lost on the … Continue reading Addictions: One ‘L of a Disorder

There is an important paradox in the story and wisdom Toto just shared in Overwhelmed. Do NOT miss this.   It's HUGE. Most clients when they are "overwhelmed" cancel the very kind of meeting they need the most, e.g. the kind of meeting Toto's client did NOT cancel with him this morning. Years ago after … Continue reading Overwhelmed – Part 2

...is more important than what we DO. It’s not that WHAT we do when we're together isn’t important – it is, but it’s secondary. What we do together is MORE important than what we do. The “we” is you the leader and whatever system, team, teammate, bride, significant-other, family, child, teenager, group, friend, customer, prospect … Continue reading What we do TOGETHER…

... is more important than what you DO. It's not that what you do when you're with them isn't important - it is, but it's secondary. Who you are when you're with them is MORE important than what you do. The "them" is whatever system, team, teammate, bride, significant other, family, child, teenager, group, friend, … Continue reading Who you are when you’re WITH them…