You and I can compartmentalize our lives. We can decide to throw ourselves into our work and leave only the leftovers for life. We can decide to live with the labor that we loathe and throw ouselves into our sons, daughters, and maybe even our wife. We can decide to despise our life, loathe our labor, and throw ourselves, instead, into our secret life. Secrets that center around the bottle, the pill, the porn, or the mistresses that nobody ever would have known. You and I can compartmentalize our lives. In fact, the vast majority of humans “cope” with their lives, exactly this way. Compartmentalizing works.
Compartmentalizing works for awhile…
“A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both.”
You and I can choose like Chateaubriand or Jacks, and live a bit more dangerously. We can choose to center our lives around our strong CORE and live and work toward our OPUS. This will require more acutely painful choices in the everyday. This kinda pain, however, will eradicate the chronic shit kinda pain that pushes you toward pills, porn, and countless other forms of distraction and diversion.
Recently, I pushed another client into some acute pain to relieve some of the chronic shit kinda pain that he’s been sitting in. I challenged him to integrate and STOP compartmentalizng himself toward slow death. Every fiber of his body told him to run. He wanted to run from me, from the bright light of truth, and from the evidence laid out before him. Here’s the coolest part. He chose to STOP. He fought the urge to run and look away. He pained himself to really study his current state and embrace the fact that this was going to hurt more acutely for awhile. FACT.
I love clients like this. I love clients that choose to wake up, accept the challenge, and begin the long, arduous, and worthwhile work toward becoming ONE. Chateaubriands quote may be a romantic notion, but living it out requires a tough, f’ you kinda love, and the REAL, HARD, WORK to painstakingly, baby step your way forward.
Most humans cope by compartmentalizing. Few choose to integrate. You choose. Your choices have consequences.
God, help me choose your way. God, help me not lose heart. God, help me baby step my way forward. God, help me learn to lean more on you and less on me. God, help me integrate the work and the life that you so graciously have laid before me. God, help me…