Yesterday, during practice 35 with a team soon to become ten, we explored how easily we are “primed” to see what we always see. You don’t see your teammate when you glance his way. You see your history with him. You don’t see those closest to you with clarity either. Just like the catchphrase we looked at yesterday, “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush,” the more familiar this phrase the more likely the eyes were to miss “the” point. The same will be true with your spouse. You assume too much…
Your brain, remember, is your systems biggest energy user. Because of this it has developed shortcuts to save itself from running on fumes before you’re ready to put him away for the night. Your brain assumes too much about those too close because it thinks it already knows enough. And, it’s got bigger fish to fry or so it thinks.
The root of so many conflicts with those that are close are our assumptions. You think you know where this is going because you’ve gone here before. You assume you have them figured out. You assume you have the solution. You assume you’ve got it. You assume too much. You are focusing your attention in the wrong direction. You end up overly fixated on two in the bush and lose the ONE in your hand.
Assume less, my friend. Assume less…
BUILT TO LEAD 