When you and I find ourselves sitting on the horns of a dilemma we tend toward doing nothing. So, we remain painfully perched on two sharp objects. Slowly, these horns sink into our behind. Slowly we become stuck. The only way off these prongs of slow pain and stuckedness is to make a decision and move our weight more fully onto one or the other. The dull pain will be replaced with something acute. Deciding will hurt. However, if you are at all like me, you’ll recover from pain in your butt even if it’s a big pain.
Your problem is you wait too long.
So, if you find yourself on the horns of a dilemma realize they are probably not equally unpalatable. One is worse than the other. One is better in the long run. One is not. One is more painful in the short run and one is not. And, there may be a third or fourth option you’ve simply not thought about since you’re a bit screwered at the moment. Ask for some additional perspective. Ask for help. On the horns of a dilemma is no place to take up residence. Decide. Choose the acute horn and get on with it. There are always gonna be horns with every leaders gig. You just don’t want to find yourself sitting there for long.
Lincoln, long recognized as one of America’s finest presidents, found himself on the horns of a dilemma regarding our country. He decided the acute path of civil war. He needed a General to lead the Union’s effort and make bad decision after bad decision before finally landing on U.S. Grant. We don’t really remember all his bad decisions, now do we? We remember the few good ones. The same is true for great leaders throughout my study of history. The greatest leaders led by the volume of their decisions. Make more decisions, friend. Sure, you’re gonna make some bad ones. No problem. Simply, quickly, make another one.
I know you are sitting on the horns of a dilemma, friend. Decide. Good…