Trust is all about turning toward. Let me unpack this thought a bit.
Trust, the kind that bonds us to another, is mostly built by how we send and receive “bids.” These bids are our attempts to connect with another. “Tell me about your day, son, How’s your dinner tasting, tell me how you picked this carpet, it’s gorgeous.” “Tell me more, help me understand what you’re thinking, let’s go to Church this morning,” and thousands or other very mundane and seemingly immaterial bids are the lifeblood of every human relationship. You see, the mundane moments matter. Funny, huh.
Today, turn toward the bids of those that mean the most to you. Tune in to the look. Tune in to the tone. Tune into the nuance. Tune into the body language. Tune into your spouse, your sibling, son, or neighbor and begin to notice the thousands of bids for attention that you’ve mostly missed. Slow down and retrace your steps, so to speak. Look up from the iPad when your Miss enters your office and take in all the signals. Your second nature is being built, slowly. You will need to reread your closest relationships over and over to truly grasp who they are. You will have to reread your bride, brother, and your boy, over and over and over again. Slowly, the magic will come. Most likely, within the mundane bids and how you choose to respond. Like me you may have already mastered the two you don’t want – turning away and turning against. These come naturally, sad to say. Build your second nature and practice turning toward, turning toward, turning toward and turning toward some more.
Turn toward. Good…