The 4th R..

Remember, when you’re 90 you will wish for the 3 R’s. Ninety year olds, when asked what they would do differently if given the gift of a “redo,” consistently answer with the 3 R’s.

They wish they had taken more risks. Remember, humans are hard wired, predominately, for loss aversion. They wish they had invested more time in the relationships that matter. Remember, men are the biggest culprits here. Men tend to over-value metrics and measurement; meaning not so much – at least till we reach a certain age. And, 90 somethings wish they had reflected more. The untrained brain avoids slowing down ’cause it tends to go all negative in the process. The normal brain simply gets busy to avoid such uncomfortable conversations with itself. Not good.


Hmmm. What are you thinking about, my friends? Does your calendar reflect your attempt to do it all or do you have margin for spontaneity alongside your responsibility? Have you a better understanding of your portfolio than the people you’re pursuing it for? Do you sense alignment as you walk through your week or does it feel like somethings a bit out of whack? Here’s a thought to sit with for awhile.  Lets work backward on the 3R’s. Start by slowing down, reflecting, and writing about some of what you want and why it matters. Take a look at your CORE and OPUS and see how the day’s and week’s PA aligns. Talk to a truth teller or two. Do more listening than speaking. As you slow down, reflect and relate, whether you know it or not, you’re recovering – you’re recovering energy. And, risk taking is energy robbing. The more you recover, rest, and rejuvenate, the more likely you are to make the right call regarding that risk that could be so, so rewarding. Recovery is the 4th R, friend. Don’t forget to take care for those so inclined to give it. Good.

Slow down and reflect. Talk. Go on, take a little risk. I mean come on, 94% of your fears are irrational, remember. Go. Good…

1 thought on “The 4th R..

  1. Yes, yes and yes. We are not taught to listen to our own voice with positive spirit and guidance. Left alone for sound bites of time often results in the anticipation of the criticism of others, so we self criticize to hear their voices. It does take time to relearn how to listen to our own voice without talking so much.

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