Here’s a nuance to one of my favorite thoughts about the elite in any endeavor – Hard on self without getting down on self. The elite have the unique ability to be self critical without self loathing. Why is this so hard for most of us humans?
The Scott household loves dogs, none moreso than Miss. Our dogs get special food, special attention, special treats (for going to the bathroom outside), and special treatment all the way ‘round. Yours most likely do as well. When one of them gets sick or, in Tank’s case has significant allergies to about everything, they get whatever prescription the Vet orders. Miss makes sure that Tank takes his prescribed meds all the way to completion. Not once in awhile, but like clockwork to completion. According to Peterson’s research (12 Rules for Life) only 50% of us even fill prescriptions that have been ordered by our trusted doc’s for ourselves. And, only 50% of those that are filled are taken through completion. What is up with this?
Think about it for a second. We care for those around us in some kinda relationship to the depth of our love reservoir. We have deep reservoirs of love for our pups, seemingly puddles for ourselves. You see, friend, we tend to quickly forgive and forget all the puppy problems of peeing and pooping on our favorite bedposts, chewing our shoes, puking on our wooden floors, and doing other doggie things like digging up the yard and even biting other dogs. I mean come on man, that’s just what dogs do. We more easily forgive our dogs than we do ourselves. You see, we don’t see our mess ups as attributable to our natures. We don’t, in fact, understand human nature.
So, where should we begin? Lets start, friend, by loving ourselves like we love our dogs. God loves you and your nature. God wants the best for you. That’s why we’re the only animal gifted with a mind capable of building a second nature. No wonder we’re still contemplating what is, in fact, our nature. God doesn’t beat you up, He built you and wants to continue to build a better you, if you’ll let Him. It’s alright to feel regret and desire to deeply change. We are designed with an almost endless capacity for growth. So, go ahead, be hard on self without getting down on self. Hard on self. Not down on self.
But, before you do, treat yourself like a dog for awhile. Treat yourself like your favorite pup, cat, or any other pet for that matter. Tap into God’s reservoir of love for you. Your puddle will soon become a pond and before long it will make Hoover reservoir look like a drop in the bucket, doggoneit…