Find a friend…

The world is getting nosier and noisier by the tweet, snapchat, facebook post, and text. Igen (millennials are so yesterday already) is a generation of connectors that will be more comfortable digitally than they will be face to face. This problem, cascading our way like a giant personal tsunami, is being missed by most but is very real, ever present, and it’s crushing our performance in thousands of little ways as it sweeps us out to the sea of mediocrity. Igenners are garnering lots of likes, but they can’t seem to find a friend. We adults are so caught up in what’s going on with Trump, twitter, The Bachelor, Our Teammates, Urban, and any number of others, that we’ve little time left to think about the ONE person we need to really know.  We are hiding behind frequent texts and tweets with our friends but less and less telling them our trials and troubles. And, even less listening to theirs. We too need to find a friend.

Instead, we are becoming more alone.

We don’t know our own thoughts, fears, dreams, disciplines, or desires.  We don’t know our tendencies that are headed toward a break. We don’t know ourselves. And, we don’t know anybody with a strong enough BTL core to challenge us to challenge our thinking. Socrates was right. Know thyself. Today, practice something really old fashioned and out of style. Today, practice being present, being with, and being comfortable by yourself. There is a world of difference between alone, a lone, and all one. Today, practice giving attention to one person at a time regardless of where you are and who you’re with. Do not allow the digital world to override your meaningful minutes with another. Invest some time with yourself and your thoughts. Write. Slow down. Reflect. Sure, it will be more depressing than delighting the first few times you discipline yourself to be alone with your thoughts. Practice being.

Practice moving from alone, to a lone, to all one. Master the language of transformational leaders – the art of listening. The world is getting nosier and noisier. Take it offline. Be with. Talk. Practice being interested. Be a friend wherever you are. Practice being.

Who knows, you may just find a friend. Good…

1 thought on “Find a friend…

  1. Obviously I am a little behind in my reading as in 3 days on your blogs! However, this one on “Finding a Friend is a real Gem and some of your best writing! This Blog hit me very deeply for a number of reasons and now…….what Productive Action will I take as a result this blog, the challenge you offer each of us, Find a Friend, be present, be curious, take a real interest in their life and BE A FRIEND, a real friend!
    I am going to start with you today, we have been running hard, helping Ryan get his business open, watching our Grandson and trying to be a good Builder of Leaders in the process……..Never to busy to call a friend!
    Thank you for being present in my life
    Thank you for helping me make one of the most important decisions in my life, leaving a 30 year career in business that was very comfortable and choosing to do what I know God put me on this earth to do…..Encourage, uplift and challenge men and women in reaching their full potential and their Big Dreams!
    Thank You for always supporting me throughout my career as a Builder of Leaders with BTL
    Thank You for bringing me closer to Christ
    Thank you for challenging my fat ass after having my knees replaced and riding 9 mountains in France
    Thank you for being present in my life and always challenging me to reach my full potential
    Thank you my friend!

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